Happiness in Marriage

From the Family Proclamation:

"The family is ordained of God. Marriage between man and woman is essential to His eternal plan. Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity. Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ."


"Some think of happiness as a glamorous life of ease, luxury, and constant thrills; but true marriage is based on a happiness which is more than that, one which comes from giving, serving, sharing, sacrificing, and selflessness. Two people coming from different backgrounds learn soon after the ceremony is performed that stark reality must be faced. There is no longer a life of fantasy or of make-believe; we must come out of the clouds and put our feet firmly on the earth. Responsibility must be assumed and new duties must be accepted. Some personal freedoms must be relinquished, and many adjustments, unselfish adjustments, must be made." - Spencer W. Kimball

founded on the teachings of Jesus Christ

"Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded on the teachings of Jesus Christ"

When marriage is founded on the teachings of Jesus Christ, we will find so much joy and happiness together. When the foundation is on Jesus Christ, it creates an environment of faith, love, happiness, and joy. Because not every day is perfect, we still can find joy each day. Prayer is an essential key to this along with repentance and following the commandments. Creating a strong relationship with Jesus Christ as husband and wife will prepare that companionship for the trials and joys we face in life.


From chapter 18 in Successful Marriages & Families, the author says, “successful marriages and families are established and maintained,” even during the storm." Yes! Even during the storm can we establish successful marriages families. The storms of life are happening in families everywhere. In the Book of Mormon, 2 Nephi 2:28, "For behold, he that is built upon the rock receives it with gladness; and he that is built upon a sandy foundation trembleth lest he shall fall."




Four Truths About Love & Marriage


From a 2017 Worldwide Devotional for Young Adults called "Love and Marriage"

by Wendy Watson Nelson

Truth #1


"Truths about love and marriage are brought to you by the Holy Ghost from our Heavenly Father. He decreed marriage to be an irreplaceable component of His plan of happiness.3 The Spirit is the messenger of these truths. I urge you to seek to understand them.


By contrast, lies about love and marriage originate with, and are perpetuated by, Satan and his servants. The adversary rejoices every time he persuades a victim to embrace anything that defiles or degrades love and marriage. However, truth is truth, lies are lies, and no amount of clever marketing, campaigning, or advocacy can ever change that."

Truth #2


"Personal purity is the key to true love. The more pure your thoughts and feelings, your words and actions, the greater your capacity to give and receive true love.

Trust me on this: Every time you pour out your heart to your Heavenly Father in prayer, and then listen; every time you study the scriptures seeking answers to the questions of your heart; every time you avoid anything that would wound your spirit (such as pornography); every time you worship in the temple; every time you find an ancestor’s ordinance-qualifying information, you are choosing to increase your personal purity.


Your future spouse will thank you because in that very moment you will be preparing for true marital intimacy. So, if you’re single and wonder how best to prepare for true love, the answer is: Do whatever it takes to keep your thoughts, feelings, words, and actions pure. Invite the Spirit to guide you. He will help you! And if you’re married, my counsel is exactly the same!

As you work to become more pure, you will have the Holy Ghost with you more and more. Your ability to receive personal revelation will increase, which means you’ll have clearer direction for your life. You’ll feel more peace and more joy, less lonely, and more hopeful about your future. You’ll also have increased mental clarity as you study and work. And, in addition to these great rewards for working every day to be just a little more pure, you’ll be increasing your ability to experience true marital intimacy.

This is why pornography is so devastating! Contrary to what all of its promoters claim, pornography will actually prevent you from experiencing the most marvelous kind of intimacy."


Truth #3


"As an important part of the expression of their love, the Lord wants a husband and wife to partake of the wonders and joys of marital intimacy.


Marital intimacy is ordained by God. It is commanded and commended by Him because it draws a husband and wife closer together and closer to the Lord! True marital intimacy involves the whole soul of each spouse.4 It is the uniting of the body and the spirit of the husband with the body and the spirit of his wife.


That soulful union represents just how united a husband and wife are in all areas of their lives. They work together as partners. They pray, play, struggle, grow, and enjoy life together. They sacrifice for each other and encourage each other to be all they were born to be.


My dear brothers and sisters, marital intimacy is sacred. In fact, a husband and wife can be drawn closer to God when joined in true marital intimacy.


So, how can you prepare for such intimacy? You will need to live righteously so the Spirit can be the companion to you and your spouse."

Truth #4


"For true marital intimacy, the Holy Ghost needs to be involved. It is simply not possible to have the kind of intimate experiences outside of marriage that you can have within because the Spirit will not be present.


Elder Parley P. Pratt taught that the Holy Ghost has the ability to increase, enlarge, expand, and purify “all the natural passions and affections.” Just imagine: He can purify your feelings! Therefore, anything that invites the Spirit into your life, and into the life of your spouse and your marriage, will increase your ability to experience marital intimacy. It really is as simple, and as profound, as that!


On the other hand, anything that offends the Spirit will decrease your ability to be one with your spouse. Things such as anger, lust, unforgiveness, contention, immorality, and unrepented sin will reduce your attempt for marital intimacy to be something that is nothing more than a sexual experience."



Resources


Nelson, Wendy Watson. "Love and Marriage" 2017. Worldwide Devotional at Brigham Young University